I’m over at Huffinton Post blogger Shirley Maya Tan’s The Art of Fearless Living with an article on being single at midlife.


It has taken me a long time to appreciate being single. Ever since my divorce almost 14 years ago, I have been trying to find that elusive Mr. Right. Not really to replace my Ex (though I longed to make him jealous…as if). But I compared every man I dated to him…as if he were the prototype of Prince Charming.

Many times, especially when something went wrong in the house – blocked up sink, finding a mouse running along my kitchen counter – I was the damsel in distress hoping to be saved.

I wanted a man in my life to share the housekeeping, maintenance and expenses.

Of course there was the intimacy. But that was far from being my top reason. I needed a man to make me feel more alive! I wanted to fall in love again (and still do). I wanted to belong to someone. To fit in a world made up of couples.

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  1. What a wonderful article Carol. I truly can’t wait to read this book. And, btw, I did speak to Amazon. They told me that updates made by authors are done without notifying readers, they just auto update. I told them my kindle was not updated. They told me to try and take it off and put it back on. Sounds annoying really. I told them if this author wasn’t a friend of mine, I would never have known I didn’t have the current version, and wonder just how many books in my library haven’t been updated that I wasn’t aware had been updated. Very confusing and somewhat annoying. I will let you know if by taking it off and putting back it helps. Just thought I’d let you know for your own purposes. 🙂


    • Thank you, Ann. Some people (me included) have had problems with the update function on Amazon. If that’s you’re case you might try resetting your update button and if that doesn’t work then I’m afraid you’ll have to call Amazon. But I do hope that you don’t have any problems. 🙂


  2. I loved learning more about you and your journey, Carol and how they’ve inspired your works. I also really appreciate your willingness to be so honest and share your experiences.


  3. This was terrific, Carol. It’s such a challenge to write about some of these life moments of ours where they feel almost like an unzipping of yourself for the world to see. But the vulnerability of the piece is what I found most appealing. Lovely job!


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