I’m over at Huffinton Post blogger Shirley Maya Tan’s The Art of Fearless Living with an article on being single at midlife.


It has taken me a long time to appreciate being single. Ever since my divorce almost 14 years ago, I have been trying to find that elusive Mr. Right. Not really to replace my Ex (though I longed to make him jealous…as if). But I compared every man I dated to him…as if he were the prototype of Prince Charming.

Many times, especially when something went wrong in the house – blocked up sink, finding a mouse running along my kitchen counter – I was the damsel in distress hoping to be saved.

I wanted a man in my life to share the housekeeping, maintenance and expenses.

Of course there was the intimacy. But that was far from being my top reason. I needed a man to make me feel more alive! I wanted to fall in love again (and still do). I wanted to belong to someone. To fit in a world made up of couples.

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